I'm disappointed

Published on December 20, 2004 By KarmaGirl In Blogging

To be perfectly clear, this is a "personal" blog and is no way related to moderation.

However, being that I moderate, I try to look at issues from every angle that I can, and try to see all view points.

There is a current trend that makes me very sad. I have very little faith in humans being a kind species to begin with, but lately I have been losing even more faith.

What is going on? What is with all of the oneupmanship of "he said, she said" around here? Why are there all of these blogs pointing out what people say and pouring salt in wounds? Why is there the need to have multiple articles all bashing on the same person?

I don't agree with everyone on here, and I don't expect everyone to agree with me. However, I also don't expect people to pull me through the mud if they don't agree. It's just common decency. Lately, though, I have been seeing more and more of these articles that serve no purpose other than pulling somebody into the mud.

And, I find it a bit hypocritical. There is a certain ex-JU community member that has his own blog. He comes here and uses the material here to write stuff on, and people here complain about it. However, people find it fine to have the same actions on this site.

I don't know what is so wrong with us in todays world. Why do people find it fun to find faults of other people and publicize them? I have a harder time every day believing that humanity is moving toward anything good at all.

Comments (Page 2)

KarmaGirl

on Dec 21, 2004

Thanks, Manopeace- I really do appreciate it!

mgosh

on Dec 21, 2004

Faith in the future of mankind. Sometimes I wonder how we survived this long without destoying ourselves. It seems to be a cosmic joke that this sentience we're given. The technological tools we invent and how often we misuse. In Joe User people post about how awfull and horrible someone else's viewpoints are and how flawed they are, while the difference in opinion can vary from huge to a very narrow shade.

I have seen the admins here and I do have to say they are pretty easy going when it comes to what people post and say. I don't see a censorship from rational posts. I guess when you have hate spewing you can't behave rationally. I think those people need a time out. That's what I'd do to a child who was misbehaving.

Manopeace

on Dec 21, 2004

I think those people need a time out

And they got it

Gideon MacLeish

on Dec 21, 2004

Karma,

I tend to agree. I've tried to tread the very fine line on this one, as I see some folks that I truly enjoy on JU who have gotten caught up in the whole ordeal, while I have nothing wrong with the individual in question (jilluser's comments on how to take that particular person from many months ago helped immensely in understanding him). But, then, I don't stand in a moderator's shoes and get the additional pleas to "do something", and don't envy you in that area.

By the way, if I don't find another of your blogs to respond to before Saturday, may you and yours have a VERY blessed Christmas!

dharmagrl

on Dec 21, 2004

Karma, you do an awesome job moderating, and don't let anyone tell you any different. I can appreciate how hard it must be....there are some people who consistently push the envelope when it comes to rules and TOS. They walk on the edge all the time, not quite violating the TOS......so there's not much you can do as far as warning/banning goes.

I just think that nastiness breeds nastiness (talking from experience here). Anymore I try to just shut up if I can't find anything nice/productive to say.

Manopeace

on Dec 21, 2004

I just think that nastiness breeds nastiness (talking from experience here).

I was never nasty to anyone till I met some of the ex losers from here.

Manopeace

on Dec 21, 2004

I just think that nastiness breeds nastiness (talking from experience here).

I was never nasty to anyone till I met some of the ex losers from here.

Poetmom99

on Dec 21, 2004

I am totally clueless this time around, and I have every intention of KEEPING it that way!! I'm beginning to think I just want to post my articles and stay away from most of the rest of the site, so as to not be tempted to get into the midst of this feud or that fight.....

Manopeace

on Dec 21, 2004

Unless you get emotional satisfaction out of it, why do it?

Some of those guys went past the stage of tolerable...there was/is no other way to deal with them.

dharmagrl

on Dec 21, 2004

get immense satisfaction when a deserving person gets their just desserts, but as I can admit to it, I can admit it is wrong..but boy does it feel so good.

I know what you mean. I don't like being nasty, it wears on my emotions. I don't like people being nasty to me, that takes a toll too. Even being nasty to someone who's consistently been mean/rude/spiteful to me bothers me.

The only reason for nastiness for no reason I can come up with is that it feeds their ego. They can have the last word; they get a feeling of one-uppance. They enjoy making other people feel small and worthless, they get off on hurting others. They're bullies, basically. Egotistical, self centered, vain, posturing, narcissistic bullies.

Manopeace

on Dec 21, 2004

They enjoy making other people feel small and worthless,

Just look at where it is coming from and take it as a compliment that you are one of the select few they hate... evil hates good...so we must be doing something right

messybuu

on Dec 21, 2004

Sheesh!!!! What did we Jews do to derve that one??

Sorry about that. I only meant it as a joke and in no way do I think that Chanukah is any less than Christmas.

Manopeace

on Dec 21, 2004

messybuu

thank you

on Dec 21, 2004

I agree that all this should stop. There's too many people who delves enjoyment from belittling and hurting others.

KarmaGirl

on Dec 21, 2004

To clarify something: this article has nothing to do with SPM or any of the "group" that was following him (or posts on his site). The people who were being nasty were banned from the site and now post anonymously (which cracks me up....it's funny when they try to push your buttons as they are posting under an anonymous name because they can't log in). I don't go to SPM site because I simply don't care what they are saying. I have learned long ago that the easiest way to stay out of petty disputes is to avoid them. I can avoid whatever hate is spreading on other sites by just not going there.

However, we are having the same problem here. People are driving away other people because of their hate. What's the easiest way to avoid it? Don't go to *our* site. What will happen in the end? We'll lose the privilege of learning about other people- *real* people. If somebody is blogging about their views and are not violating the TOS (note that *all* people who have been banned have broken the "rules" which they were warned about before being banned) then why should somebody be harassed? Actually, I'm starting to think that some of the things that are being said to other bloggers (like the articles made specifically to drag a person through the mud instead of providing new content) should be considered harassment and removed from the forums. I'll have to think about that.......

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